Two misunderstandings with colleagues
Colleagues are the easiest to form a relationship of interest, and if small things are not treated correctly, a gully is easy to form.
It is important to remember in the workplace that we are face to face with colleagues, not enemies.
After graduating from a prestigious school, Li Haigang, who has excellent ability, went to work in the unit, in order to expand his ability to do his job well, and helped his colleagues everywhere.
At first, colleagues liked him very much, but later he found that all of them were alienated from him, and the head of the department often made him difficult, which made him confused.
Later, after hearing the “discussion” behind colleagues, Li Hai found that in their eyes, he was “sharp and competitive, seeming to help colleagues, but actually added credit to his credit books.”
Colleague Xiao Chen said: “Although he is not harmful, he is too much of himself. He always sees others as his focus, and tries to overwhelm others, especially when there is a leader present.
那次，我的电脑遇到了一个小问题，我叫钱姐帮忙，当钱姐正在帮我做事的时候，李海却跑过来抢了钱姐手里的工具修起了电脑，还说‘这么简单的事都不会做，你真笨’。Although the computer was repaired, I wasn’t comfortable at all, and they didn’t ask you to help.
After hearing this, Li Hai felt cold: How did I become such a person in their eyes!
Opinions: Due to differences in experience, positions, etc., colleagues often have different views on the same issue, causing some changes. It is easy to be upset if you are not careful.
Therefore, when there are differences of opinion with colleagues, the first is not to be too preliminary.
Objectively, it takes a process for people to accept new ideas. Subjectively, they are often accompanied by a “good face”
and a “competitive and strong win” mentality.And it affects unity; the second is not to “take peace as value”.
Even when it comes to the issue of principles, they do not persist, do not transform, and even go with the flow, deliberately covering up contradictions.
In the face of problems, especially in the event of division, we must strive to find common ground and hope to seek common ground while shedding minor differences.
When it is impossible to agree, it does not hinder the cold treatment, indicating that “I cannot accept your opinions, I retain my opinions”, so that the transformation fades without losing my position.
Honesty and jealousy made me suffer. When Luo Min went to work in a new unit, I thought I had the highest academic qualifications and the best ability, and I often showed complacency at work.
One day, the head of the department assigned him a very simple task, but Luo Min failed to complete it. Later, he turned to his colleague Chen Fei for a successful business trip.
Therefore, the supervisor praised Chen Fei and said, “Although Chen Fei is not highly educated, but he has strong operating skills, everyone should learn from him .” With such a commendation, Luo Min felt very uncomfortable in his future work.Always want to pick Chen Fei’s thorns, showing his ugliness.
But Chen Fei always learned from him very frankly, not angry.
As a result, over time, Luo Min left colleagues with a bad impression of jealousy. Therefore, in the selection of supervisors later, Luo Min lost to Chen Fei.
Luo Min sighed, “Jealousness made me suffer a lot!
“Comment: Many colleagues are usually peaceful, but when confronted with interests, they should not let them down.
Or talking to each other behind the back, or may be jealous, and talk coldly.
In this way, it is neither bright nor righteous, but it is also unfavorable to others. Therefore, when it comes to promotion, utilitarianity must always maintain a normal mind.
Advice: Face life with smiles In real life, many narrow-minded people always seek their own psychological comfort and balance by hurting the self-esteem of others, but the result is often a loss of both sides. Neither side can win friendship and sufferRevenge.
Collisions often occur between colleagues, and if they are not handled properly and in a timely manner, major contradictions will form.
As the saying goes, the enemy should be solved or not settled.
When there is a conflict with a colleague, you must take the initiative to tolerate it, find the cause from yourself, and think about it for others to avoid intensification of the conflict.
If you have formed a contradiction, and you are indeed wrong, you must put down your mind, learn to apologize, and move with sincerity.
Take a step back, and if one side takes the initiative to break through the deadlock, you will find that there is no big gap between each other.
Faced with our own unfavorable facts, why don’t we face life with a smile and treat our colleagues around us kindly!
In real life, some people do not use important advantages to work, rather than computing colleagues.
Everything is a double-edged sword, and the more you do it, the more damage you suffer.
As a result, your relationship with your colleagues is getting more and more complicated. How could your work efficiency not decrease then?
Therefore, sticking to multiple officers and less worried about jealousy and calculating others is an important principle in dealing with colleagues.